The LOVE we deserve.

You deserve someone who you can get into arguments with and still have them look at you as if you're the best thing that's ever happened to them.

This was posted by one of my friends on Facebook. It resonated with me so deeply, I decided to do a blog post.

Where do I start? Right now at 1911hrs CT on March 14, 2018, I’m trying to figure out how to write this blog post without bursting out into tears. (Geeeezus, I swear I’m premenopausal!!!!! Yikes!!!!)

We all should have THE LOVE WE DESERVE. Period. Most of us (unless our hearts are made of coal and we are serial killers) deserve a magnanimous love. We deserve the kindness, fervor and adoration we give to others. Make that ten-fold. As the doldrums of life crushes our souls each day with the rat race, we deserve to come home to someone that loves us immensely. 

I used to think LOVE was a many splendored thing. I’ve turned a new leaf. It is not. It is a declaration of time, energy and purpose. Yes, yes, yes – LOVE IS PURPOSEFUL. I’m going to send this good morning text because you are the first person I think of in the morning. I’m going to send this good night text because you are the last person I think of at night. I’m calling you to hear your voice. I’m holding you in my arms to make you feel safe. I’m not desecrating the wounds in your soul that haven’t healed because I care for you and I’ve decided to be here to help you push through the pain. Love is not a many splendored thing. That’s clearly infatuation. Love is purposeful. Love is filled with honest intentions and authentic actions of due care. 

So when I saw my friend post this on Facebook, it resonated deep in my heart. Why, you ask? Well on the drive home, I saw a couple on the corner near the 610. The hand gesticulations and the expressions on their faces seemed to single a very common situation amongst lovers… someone being hurt and asking why the other person hurt them. As I glared from my car, I quickly turned around to check if my child saw this scene. They did not. I was relieved because I want my child to have the love of a lifetime. A kind love. A honest love. A caring love. I don’t want my child to think that love has to come with strife built-in and ready to implode a relationship as a failsafe. I think that it is purposeful work, that can elevate the soul, slightly improve your health and adjust your point of view all with authentic love. 

… that’s if you are getting the love YOU deserve. 

And that is a love that adores you, exalts you, champions you, supports you, is honest with you, makes amazing love to you, eats nachos with you, compromises with you, laughs with you, protects you and honors you – knowing that you would extend the same purposeful and loving behavior in return. 

I told 3 different people today that “we all should have the love we deserve”. On 3 different occasions, I uttered those words because I see such a void where love is supposed to be. I see a void of love in the lives of those whom I love very much. I am very intune to the fact that my life… over these forty-five years has been devoid of love in many instances and finally I know I deserve a great love because I give love in a superlative fashion.

If you are reading this, I hope that you have a great love in your life and you are enjoying a love that you most rightfully deserve. May your heart never feel the pangs of loneliness while in another’s arms. 

2 thoughts on “The LOVE we deserve.

    • efabuloushb says:

      Sharing is caring! I think if more people had the love they deserved – they wouldn’t be so quick to use and sully the humanity of others. That’s just my thoughts, but I’m very naive about humanity. …And it only took me 45yrs to figure that out.


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